It's A Hard World To Please

Hi guys, girl, ladies, gents, world. 

This is going to be from a girl's point of view, I understand that guys goes through things as well in their own ways, but this is mostly situated to the girls. So as a girl, it's a hard world to please. They want us to be pretty, smart, slim but curvy, outgoing but well mannered, thoughtful and willing to drop everything because we're girls. They expect us to always say yes and nod our heads in agreement. They expect us to be able to make a phenomenal sandwich. But to be honest, there's a lot more pressure put on us than anyone sees. So here's the ones from a girl's point of view. 

They want us to be beautiful. 

They want us to look pretty. They want us to be flawless and have faces like models. It's hard enough accepting ourselves for who we are and there's this extra thing we have to face : pleasing others. They want us to be stunning the moment we get out of bed. Hair perfect, voluminous, bouncy, shiny and sleek. They want our eyebrows to be full, eyelashes long and eye catching. They want our faces to be spotless, acne free, cheekbones to stand out and noses small and cute. Your smiles has to be heavenly, teeth all aligned and white, sparkly.  But when we step up to the game, putting on makeup to cover up the scars and the blemishes and dark circles to be what they want, we're suddenly fake, high maintenance. Just in the blink of an eye, makeup makes you fake, skincare products make you a beauty queen. Trying to be acceptable is fake, it's try hard. But everybody wants us to be pretty and eye catching. What do they want from us, exactly?

They want us to be slim and slender. 

They say, "slim and curvy." That's the ultimate goal. Girls who are slim, slender but has the whole package. If we're slim and stick like, we're suddenly unappealing. If we're curvy or average we're just suddenly fat. What's the logic in this? If we're not good enough and if we're more than enough, what is good enough? They want us to be a size 4 or less with a thigh gap and boobs enough to show a cleavage, bum to be enough to show off in a dress. But once all those things are too much or too little that's it. You're either too fat or too thin to be appealing. 

What matters is the beauty inside. 

While this sounds sweet, how often does one just close they're eyes and likes you for the one you are inside? First impressions count. But sometimes they're taken into account more than it should. They want us to have an outshining personality. So great that how we look or what we wear doesn't matter. But how often is this true? You wouldn't approach someone who dresses up in torn and tattered jeans and a ripped tee with bed hair and a face full of blemishes as opposed to someone who is well dressed. They judge us by our looks way too often. How do you expect young, insecure girls to feel even a shred of love for themselves? 

Being Smart. 

Once your smart, you're attractive. Once you're smarter, you're a nerd. If you like books and like spending time alone, if you work hard and prioritize your studies or your job, you're a nerd, you're a workaholic. You're a weirdo. If you're failing at everything, immediately you're not worth they're time. 

 JUST BE YOURSELF.

 Oh my goodness. This is the best one. It's a joke, really. They want us to be ourselves. They want us to be confident in our own skin, appreciate the weird laugh that we have, the "I love myself and I accept myself for who I am." the "I don't need makeup to feel good" the "I am beautiful" the "I don't need to be someone else for others to like me" the ORIGINALITY. To be honest with you, out of 10 people who tells you to, "be yourself", 9 of them would end up hating the you that you are. Ever been in that situation? You're called fake and they don't like you. You put a little barrier to filter yourself out and they still don't like you. You try to please them, they still don't like you. But when you're you, true colors and all straight all laid out on the table, they STILL don't like you. "She's too straight forward" "she's too obnoxious" "she's too popular" "she's too loud" "she's too fat" "she's too thin." "she's too talented" "she has way too many friends" Well, here's my question : what does one have to do to begin to feel accepted? 

I like a girl that doesn't have drama in her life. 

No girl drama? Okay, we'll be friends with guys. There, problem solved. But no, then there's the whole, "she's such a player." "gosh, she's such an attention seeker" "she hangs out too much with guys" "she's such a show off.". Hmm. Makes me wonder yet again. What do we have to do? 

Stand up for yourself. 

We speak our minds, stand up for ourselves, set things right, take the lead, we're suddenly bitches. When we finally decide that it's the last straw and we have had enough, putting our foot down and saying no suddenly makes us selfish and a bitch. I don't see how that makes sense, but in the mindset of the world, it does. How and why? 

She has to be truthful. 

HAHA. Truthful? If we ever spoke the truth, we'd be criticized as being TOO straightforward, too mean. Or maybe there's the whole, "she's a girl, she doesn't know what she's talking about.". Telling the truth is like taking that step to fall of a cliff. We tell the truth, we're a stuck up, pretentious. But when we aren't truthful, we're liars.  

Be nice. 

They want us to be nice, helpful, willing to be a good friend, generous, smile and always say yes, never lie, obey the rules, be respectful. But when we do so, we're considered, "suspicious." or we have ulterior motives.  Or maybe you'll just get really hurt and betrayed because someone took advantage of you. Happens way too often than none. When you're not nice enough, you're immediately unappealing. You're suddenly in the "ew" list. Makes sense in today's world for some great reason, doesn't it? 

Talkative/Too silent.

People like girls who are quiet. But at the same time, they want us to initiate conversation. But when we want time to ourselves, we're rude for not wanting to converse or we don't appreciate someone's company. Or the fact that when we talk too much we're talkative, too loud which makes us unladylike. 

That's about the most I can think about for now. What about you? What do you think? 

Zoe